In this Yale lecture from Everyday Parenting: The ABCs of Child Rearing, Dr. Alan Kazdin explores how effective communication through negotiation, compromise, and structured problem-solving can help parents navigate the increased independence and challenges of adolescence. Kazdin shares practical strategies for approaching disagreements with teenagers in ways that preserve the relationship while still setting boundaries, moving beyond the more directive techniques used with younger children. The lecture emphasizes collaborative approaches that respect a teen's growing autonomy while keeping parents actively involved in guiding behavior. It continues the course's adolescent-focused unit, following the previous lecture on adapting core behavior-change tools for teens.